|"The child, in fact, once she/he/they feels sure of herself/himself/themselves, will no longer seek the approval of authority after every step." (Maria Montessori)|
How to celebrate success/encourage kids without giving them "praises"?
Thank you for sharing with me your (vulnerabilities, sadness, anxiety, thoughts, pain). Thank you for trusting me.
Thank you for sharing your (cookies, toys, books). I am so glad.
I appreciate your effort.
I appreciate you notice someone else needs help.
You did not give up. You have tried hard.
6. 你很專心做事情 (畫畫、讀書、玩玩具)。
You are very focused in (drawing, reading, playing).
7. 謝謝你貼心給(媽媽、爸爸、奶奶、爺爺) 休息的空間。
Thank you for being considerate when you give (mommy, daddy, grandpa, grandma) a break.
You did it!
Thank you for cleaning up.
You notice something goes wrong and make the correction.
I believe you can do it.
You are trying really hard.
I would like to know you did it. Would you please tell me?
You have taken care of yourself today. We have more time to play.
You have cleaned up so Mommy does not need to spend more time tidying up. Mommy has more time to play with you now.
A little note for my daughter, Luna:
I hope you are courageous enough to explore the world without feeling the pressure to ensure the happiness of everyone, because it is unrealistic to please everyone, and it is exhausting to be a people pleaser. Be kind. Be considerate. Be generous. Be yourself.